Fatherhood, Life Updates, Uncategorized 0 comments on Community pool

Community pool

Amelia was desperate to go swimming today. Micky wanted to see the curtains. So we looked up some public pool times and headed down to Bayshore.

The lady at the front desk of the MLK Jr Rec Center was incredibly nice. Great smile.

We got in, and the babies were definitely intimated. Lots of loud kids. The water was too cold for them. But we hopped in, and toughed it out for 35 minutes.

We took a steaming hot shower afterwards because the water was really cold.

And then hit up the playground.

I think it’s so great that the city of SF has public pools we can go to for $8. It’s definitely going to be part of our weekend play book.

But the best part was how Amelia wanted it, and how much she enjoys the pool, swimming, and just being physically active in general.

Long may it last 🙂

Fatherhood, Uncategorized 0 comments on Hide (or don’t) and seek

Hide (or don’t) and seek

The babies have fallen in love with playing hide and seek. Except… there’s no mystery to how they play 🙂

The game usually goes something like this

Amelia and Luka go into bed time delay mode by suggesting a rousing game of hide-and-seek. Amelia usually says something along the lines of, “Mummy, Luka, Mummy, Luka you be a dinosaur. Me and daddy hide in daddy’s bed.”

So let’s break it down… a successful game of hide-and-seek seems to involve

  1. Dinosaurs chasing you down, and attempting to eat you. There’s a lot of cannibalism in our family as the babies are so sweet that cheeks, chins, tummies, and feet are regularly eaten. This has clearly translated into their play
  2. Knowing where someone is is a requirement to the game
  3. The “dinosaurs” need to make loud noises pretending to not know where the hiders are.
  4. When the “dinosaurs” finally pounce on the hiders everyone squeals in delight

That is, unless you’re Luka. You see if you’re Luka then you can’t wait, and you pull the covers down, pop out of the bed, and yell, “Mummy. I here!” over and over again until you’re discovered. And then you squeal in delight anyway.

What will those goofballs think of next to not have to go to bed. I can only imagine 🙂

Life Updates, Uncategorized 0 comments on A new tradition

A new tradition

The Friday evening pizza date.

Before Micky and I got married, had kids, and officially became adults, we used to head over to Cavallaho Point on a Friday afternoon, watch the sun set over the Golden Gate Bridge, and have fancy appetizers and drinks.

You stop doing that when there’s bedtime, and books, and bath time, and dinner to worry about.

But it doesn’t mean that we should stop all traditions… and we’ve almost accidentally fallen into one that I love…

Friday night pizza with the kids.

It’s only been 2 weeks, so it’s not quite a thing yet (:-)), but for the last two weeks we’ve picked the kids up from school, taken the kids to pizza, and just vegged out enjoyed each other’s company. I love it.

Last week we went to The Pizza Place, and then sat on the beach (Amelia’s idea by the way). What the kids didn’t eat we fed to the sea gulls (which they thought was the funniest thing ever). Amelia stood there shouting, “Hey! Seagull. Eat that pizza!”

Tonight, we went to Bambino’s with the wonderful Erin there to take care of us. The kids were civilized. The food there is always great (though I didn’t eat because of Ramadan).

I love our new mini-tradition, and I hope we can keep it going. It’s a really great one!

Becoming a PM, Fatherhood, Uncategorized 0 comments on Learning to let go

Learning to let go

I always tell people that I have 3 babies:

  • Amelia

  • Luka

  • OpenTok

And all three have had an amazing year. They’ve gone from needing epic hand holding to having a village around them that makes them better than I could alone.

At work, the hardest part has been learning to trust that others can love the product as much as I do. The team I’ve built makes me feel so confident in the wider set of problems that we’re solving. And now, as they develop their own ideas, I’m really seeing what OpenTok will be. It’s really amazing.

This past week at swimming class my other two babies surprised me so much. Luka is getting so damn confident. Amelia did the older class by herself, and she was just amazing!! And the whole time all I want is to hold them back, and feel like I’m on control and can help them.

But as I said to my team at TokBox, my challenge this quarter is learning to let go. I guess it’s destiny that it all has to happen at once 🙁

Becoming a PM, just thinking out loud, Uncategorized 0 comments on 6 years later

6 years later

I started at TokBox six years ago today.

It’s been an amazing journey to say the least. I interviewed with 20 companies my 5th year of college. I got a ton of first round interviews because I’d worked my ass off to build a killer internship resume. I just couldn’t close the door though on a bunch of companies (Mint, Facebook, Apple, Google to say the least).

But TokBox took a chance on me.

It all started with Timmy Wenzel who did my pre-screen interview. Turns out he had no idea what he was asking, but damn did he have me fooled. I came out to SF, interviewed with Ron, Nick, Kundan, I think Jason. It was scary. I wore a tie, and they all made fun of me. None of them are TokBox-ers today 🙁

I got my offer letter, and asked Timmy for more money. He said no. I took the job offer. Just asking Timmy for more money scared the shit out of me, but my dad said I had to do it. Timmy later told me if I’d asked again he would have said yes. I couldn’t though. His hair was too perfect.

There is genuinely only one other job I think I would have considered, and that was to go work for Steve Jernigan. I didn’t believe in the product Part of me thinks I should have just followed Eishay wherever he went. The road would look so different had I done that. I’d be a much, much better engineer though

Over the years the faces changed (a lot). Micky joined that November. I chased her the following January. Ian came the following May. Deidre came and left in that window. I think she was just 2 years too early. She and I just couldn’t convince folks quickly enough that the API was a legitimate thing.

It’s felt like three different roles. I exploded as an engineer under Yang. I exploded as a PM under David. And now only God knows what I’m doing under Scott. But all three of those experiences are A+.

In this epic state of nostalgia I think about all the things we could have done differently. What if we’d killed the load time llama, and just converted to an HTML based site? What if we’d hired that CTO guy? What if we’d handled the pivot differently from a company organization point of view? What if I’d left when everyone else was seeming to go?

The horizon for a VC-backed platform company is very different from a consumer-app company. We lost on that big time. And yet, Telefonica is allowing us to do great and big things. Silver linings abound.

I’m most proud that Janine and I convinced Ian to pivot. The technology was always meant to be a platform play (even if I had no chance of being the engineer to make it really happen). I told Ian once, “You’ve got me and Janine. That’s all you need to make this thing happen”. I was almost right.

I’m most sad about how many people we churned through along the way. I’ve never worked anywhere else, and so I don’t know if it’s typical to have such a “death” toll. It was a steep emotional cost to say the least.

This week Ian’s back. The vibe in the office is full of energy. The opportunities in front of us are so clear, so full of potential. The time coming up looks so much more full of potential than the time passed.

And I think that’s a sign that after 6 years… I did something right. Something to be proud of.

Life Updates, Uncategorized 0 comments on Going home

Going home

It’s been 4 really long days filled with airports, airplanes, meetings, and now I’m heading home.

Last night was an amazing night with Louise and Lizzie’s crews.

It made me want to see mine even more.

On FaceTime tonight, the babies gave me big kisses. She can speak so well now, and she expresses emotion so boldly. He’s just so darn handsome I can’t take my eyes off of him.

It’s almost worth waking them up when I land and getting a big kiss out of them both. Almost… 🙂

Fatherhood, Uncategorized 0 comments on Happy birthday Amelia!

Happy birthday Amelia!

Darling Amelia.

You turned three years old today.

What a year we shared together. You started school last August, and you’re getting ready to “graduate”. We’ve moved house, travelled across the US, met elephant seals, learned to communicate, did potty training, and so much more.

You hate to sleep. Especially alone. In fact, you weren’t sleeping through the night until just recently. And breaking that pattern was so incredibly difficult.

Your favorite songs were:

  • Anything by Miley Cyrus but especially “Wrecking Ball”
  • Anything from Frozen but especially “Let it Go”
  • ABCD
  • Old McDonald had a farm

Your best friend could be any of:

  • Lilah (from school and soccer)
  • Lucy Green
  • Luka (you guys can’t stand to be apart… or together)

Your favorite activities were:

  • Gym class every Saturday morning
  • Swimming
  • Going to the zoo
  • The Pet Store on 31st and Judah
  • Scooting in the park
  • Hanging out with Doruk

We travelled to

  • North Carolina (twice)
  • Myrtle Beach (and we’ll never do that again)
  • Pescadero over Christmas

Your major life events were

  • Starting school in August 2013
  • Moving to a new house in February 2014
  • Learning to scooter around the neighborhood
  • Surgery in May to close up another hernia

Developmentally you continue to amaze us. Your speech is fantastic (even though you can’t hit a pronoun to save your life). You’re athletically so talented. Fast. Coordinated. But you’re still a bit shy around other kids. You’re much better with adults.

You love Luka so much.

And you give the best kisses that any dad could ask for.

Happy birthday darling Amelia. When you’re finally old enough to read this, I just hope you’ll still curl up in my arms, and fall asleep on my shoulder, and not be too big to be my baby girl.

I love you.

Home ownership, Uncategorized 0 comments on Micky sees the dream :-)

Micky sees the dream :-)

Today we lived out the best of being homeowners in the Sunset.

We woke up, and the kids sat in our bed, and watched cartoons. When we finally woke ourselves up, we got dressed, and headed to breakfast. But not in any old way. We hopped on our bikes, threw the kids in their seats, and headed into the park. Breakfast was great, and then…

We headed to the Zoo.

The bike ride to the zoo is fantastic. It’s along the ocean. It’s free of car traffic. And you’re there before you know it. It was so, so windy, but that’s not too big of a deal.

The morning was seeing the red panda (new to the zoo), the new insects, the goats, the big cats, and then playing with model boats on a simulated river that they setup by the penguins. It was fantastic!

We headed to lunch back on Judah, I had a killer cheeseburger, and then we came home.

I don’t think either of us could imagine a better day… and we know how lucky we are to have it.